Should Crying Be An Embarrassment For Adults?

Cry baby, cry…if you feel like you want to express your feelings. Although tears are so innocent, we all have different opinions as to when is acceptable or not to cry.

So, tears or emotions – which one of these are the cause of crying? But what if the tears are fake? Sometimes we are able to identify the difference between fake or real tears, but if not…those may be actually coming from an intense (positive or negative) emotion.

The truth is people cry – babies, adults and old people. All of us cried at some point in our lives. And is that embarrassing? My opinion is – not at all. I don’t think that crying is an act of weakness. It is an emotion that reflects some of our feelings.

Society accepts tears of people who experience emotional happy moments: weddings, birth of their babies, a huge achievement. Or, on the other hand, people accept (or tolerate) when someone is crying because they’ve experienced loss of a dear person (or animal), of big material goods such as house. And babies cry…this is one of the most painful cry for parents. You never know what a true reason for your baby’s cry is (of course, after offering all the comfort such as feeding or/and change of nappies).

What about moments when everybody disagree with expressing this emotion? These are plenty too.

Even since babies become toddlers, we often hear from parents:

  • ‘You are a big boy/girl. You shouldn’t cry.’ Or…’look at the other baby, she/he is not crying.’

Unfortunately, this can affect the child. As he/she grows up, he/she keeps that in mind, thinking: ‘Oh, if I accidentally hurt myself, I shouldn’t cry, as everybody will be staring at me, thinking that I am a weak person’. Is this actually a weakness? Or some people are just more emotional than others!?

Men and women are emotional. Yet why do we often hear the expression ‘men don’t cry’? I don’t think that differences of sexes reflect the presence or absence of feelings.

Therefore, humans have emotions and these can be expressed by tears.

“…you know that a good, long session of weeping can often make you feel better, even if your circumstances have not changed one bit.”
― Lemony SnicketThe Bad Beginning